Everything you need to know about fast love...
They call speed dating the biggest revolution in the Asian dating arena and every week, single girls and guys line up to catch a glimpse of their possible soul mate. Are you ready to rush into the arms of love?
A roomful of singletons gather to play chat-up and impress, but with only three minutes with any man – you’ve got to show your best side while working out what’s good about him. You’re given a scorecard and you tick the ones you like – if any of them feel the same about you, you’ll receive an e-mail within 48 hours and it’s game on.
There are hundreds of speed dating agencies popping up everywhere, some out for a fast buck, but mostly good. Of the many exclusively Asian event organisations (apnaspeeddating.com, speedintros.com, kismatnights.com, asianspeed8.com and attraction-events.com to name but loads), Or go for speeddatingandthecity.com, who promise a higher class of clientele. As a general rule of thumb, the more pricey the ticket, the less likely you are to bump into riff-raff and time wasters.
How to play
Psychologists say it takes less than 30 seconds to work out whether you like or dislike someone, first impressions last and all that, but just to be sure – keep a checklist of things to watch out for. Does making eye contact feel like a stare or a happy gaze? Is the body language awkward or mirrored? Are you talking over each other or finishing each other’s sentences? Is he full of himself or making you want to know more? Is the laughter the result of nerves or are you sharing a joke? Is the conversation contrived or flowing? Is he fidgety or at ease with himself? Are his fingernails dirty? Is he wearing crap shoes? Does he keep staring at your breasts and drooling?
If you like what you see, you make a beeline for it. If you don’t, forget it. And it’s not as daunting as you think – when a guy comes up to you and chats you up in a club, how long does it take for you to decide to chat back or turn and walk away?
Three minutes can seem a painfully long time in the presence of a cretin. And be warned, a lot of guys are in it for a quick shag and, because they don’t get vetted, might well be married love rats.